At 38, with 4 kids under 7 and a business to run, to say my life was in ‘Busy’ mode, was an understatement. I was throwing and slinging, washing and strolling, jumping railroad tracks and breaking laws, trying to make carpool on time.
Life was about HOW FAST I could check off the TO DO List; when suddenly my 3rd son – clinging to the stairwell, said his FIRST word: ‘Hurry.’ It was more like Hoo-wey!
Nooooo! I’m a mom blogger. This can’t be your first word. How am I suppose to share it with the world? ? You’re making me look bad, kid.
But the realization that I had influenced this child to say ‘HURRY’ rocked me to the core.
My life was running me when I should have been running IT. What happens when this Mom Gig is over?
And I’ve run them thru the gauntlet of pre-school to productive citizenship so fast, I didn’t savor the moments because we had a schedule to keep. Go-Go- Go! Stamp the ticket.
What happens when all the windows are smudge free, the stickiness is gone and I can Pee in Peace?
Wait . . . Is that a thing!
10 Reasons We Don’t Rock at Motherhood
1. Stop Acting as if a Season of Life is Your Permanent Fate.
Seasons of Life, good or bad won’t last forever. The job, the sweet spot of life, the crabby teenager, the rash on baby Liam’s butt, are all fleeting. Hang tight for the wind to change.
2. Mom Guilt – STOP. IT. It’s a dead end road.
There’s a 50/50 chance you’ll make the correct decision, yet somehow we guilt ourselves into thinking our choice is ALWAYS wrong. Give yourself Grace! Some slack, mama. You’re one person.
3. Stop cleaning your house: Clean houses are overrated.
I cleaned the house today and we still live here, that was dumb!
Yes, clean is a good thing, but the house will always be there, the kids won’t. Don’t create a regret, by allowing the need for a clean house to trump time with loved ones. There’s a time and place for everything.
4. Stop Rehearsing for Perfection.
Your life is a Live production. The show must go on in all its beauty, sadness, and complexities. Live in the moment.
5. Stop embracing the Oscar for ‘Worst Mom’ Moment.
I should have done this, I should have done that. I’ve messed up their lives forever. They’re gonna need counseling. So what, we all did. Kids love unconditionally. ❤️ It’s their gift. They think you hung the moon. See yourself through their eyes ?
6. There’s Beauty in the Ordinary, quit trying to make ALL moments Extraordinary.
While the mountain top is pretty special, the valleys and plateaus offer rest, healing, a reset button.
We have to go through all the processes, feel all the feels. Every day can’t be Christmas.
7. Don’t permanently reside in the Chaos of Life.
BE Still & Know – the answers hang out in the Stillness. In the quietness, in meditation, in prayer, in white noise. – Just BE
8. Stop Saying Yes, when you should have said NO.
It’s selfish to give a Yes when you didn’t mean it. You’ll regret it later, and not give your best. When you say No to others, you say YES to your Family. Choose wisely.
9. Stop Wearing the Hero Cape, Daily.
Give the cape a rest, for the love! You don’t need a cooking show to stand out. Besides, who are you standing out for? You’ve already won the hearts of your greatest fans, your people.
10. Stop Choosing Perfection over Progress.
Lord knows Perfection is only real on paper. It’s a myth and sabotages the goodness. Let. It. Go.
Now go enjoy all the Ooey Gooey goodness life has to offer, with your tribe.
For they understand all the
carry your secrets,
hold your heart
and love you like no other!
Go . . . Create the slow down button and Hoo-wey – before it’s too late.
Here’s to living the Best Version of You!
What actions have you taken to rock motherhood?