World’s OKAYEST MOM
In college, my focus was less on education and more on socialization.I wholeheartedly scored an A in Fraternizing, Consorting and my dedication to commemorating an occasion. My grades were OK.
There are moments when we shine in life and others when we’re just OK. The vital signs on the Monitor are still moving, nothing special, but we’re alive.
Us Moms spend our days beating ourselves up, thinking we’re not Enough. If we don’t have a cooking show or Professional Christmas Cards distributed by Dec. 5th, we’re not enough.
It’s such an immeasurable term. What does Enough look like?
Webster’s defines it as: Adequate. And yet somehow,
we view it as IN-adequate.
Somewhere between social media and those craft sites, we think, wearing anything less than a Super Hero Cape MUST mean we’re letting the world down.
What was once considered Over Achievement has become the lowly standard. We provide ourselves little slack in the Less Than amazing moments. And believe me, there are many more Less Than moments.
When I was young, we weren’t rich, but no one told me. My parents started their own business; finances were tight, but we had love and determination.
We spent boo-coos of family time, playing badminton in the front yard, swimming at the lake, eating ice cream on the trampoline, laughing at each other’s stories, and enjoying Tuesday game night.
My parents, at some point, probably felt like they weren’t enough, but we didn’t see it that way.
Kids and spouses alike, have this amazing redemptive quality. They’re just happy you love them!
We tend to be our own worst enemy.
Look at your kids as they skip through the house. Does this send a message that you’re not enough? Or maybe the teen who half rolls their eyes at a comment you made, yet stays in close proximity to the living room, as to not miss out on the action.
Who do they run to for advice, boo boos, and heartbreak, with perfect precision, making a beeline straight for you? It’s because You’re ENOUGH!
You hold a solid position in those individual lives. No one can take this from you, but YOU. There’s no need for a Harvard resume to apply for this position. You’re here because God gave you this crazy family that no one else could handle like you could.
No one can fill the void, soften the blow, heal the heart, fill the wound or love their soul like you can. Because Say it: You’re ENOUGH!
We feel like a failure, they think you hung the moon. You feel overweight, they think you’re beautiful. You think you’re a terrible cook, they think you’re the best grill cheese, maker.
Apparently, they view us through Rose Colored Glasses. Maybe we should buy a pair.
Perception is Reality folks and Mama, you’re Enough.
At times, we’re a Mess, a Masterpiece, A Success, and a Failure, but most of all, we’re Enough.
The Hand that Rocks the Cradle is the Hand that Rules the World.
Here’s to Living the Best Version of You!
Share with us moments when you don’t think you’re enough.
Have you ever eaten a fantastic dessert, as you held an interesting conversation, looked down and thought, “Who Ate My Pie?”
As I’ve raised kids, climbed the corporate ladder, and worked the PTA gig, I’ve often wondered: Where did my Sexy Go?
I began searching for it. Did someone steal it from under my nose? Did I loose it on the way to having kids?
Did I exhaust it, with my Lulu Lemon and Ponytail look?
Had I not made room for it amongst soccer, ballet, deadlines, and dishes? Was there not an extra seat in my minivan?
As I began to search for my distant friend, I had to remember what it looked like. Had it matured? Could we still be friends?
The mirror reflecting what use to be – now told a different story. Would we fit together with the ease we once knew? Would we recognize one another?
Sexy is more than a little black dress, heels, red lipstick and a trip to Vegas.
It’s Quiet, it’s Loud
Sexy is an attitude, a mindset. It’s not whiny, in constant longing for affirmation; it’s not weak. It’s not crying over a college figure that once was.
Sexy pulls you up by the boot straps and turns your life around, makes changes you’ve always needed but hadn’t.
It’s the girl that realizes she’s the BOSS of Her OWN Life, the Leading Lady in her Own Play, the Decider of Her Own Fate.
With every decision you make and every word that comes from your mouth, choose to be confident and empowered.
So when you throw on those Yoga pants or the little black dress, don’t forget to put on your sexy. It’s all in the TUDE, the atti-TUDE.
Here’s to Celebrating the Best Version of You. Now that’s Sexy.
by Stephanie Pletka
Do you ever feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? In my case, it came in the form of a purse.
I bought this cute, sassy designer bag and before I knew it, I had stashed extra diapers, a pair of socks, my 10 yr old’s iPad and a big bag of change.
The very thing that was holding me down, weighing on my shoulders was a bag of change, $13 to be exact.
As I cleaned out my purse, it hit me, of all the junk I’m throwing out, receipts, a mismatched shoe, a purple hairbrush, the one thing I truly needed to keep – was the bag of change.
Not the endless quarters, dimes and nickels, rather, a BAG OF CHANGE.
What an Epiphany.
We fall into the rut of life, mindlessly driving to work, going through the motions. We graduate from college and are handed a key to the Hamster Wheel of Life.
We walk down the same grocery store aisles looking for the same food, cooking the same meals, paying the same bills, folding the same laundry, when what we’re looking for is a Bag of Change.
I replaced my own thoughts, needs and dreams for those in my household under 4 ft. 2, allowing their emergencies to become my own.
I’m hungry, I need this, I want that. My days were filled with: Don’t holler, quit fighting, drink your milk, get out of the road, don’t look at your brother, put it down – and before I knew it, I lost myself.
I had become one of those items in my purse, weighing Me Down!
I wanted to be the Leading Lady of my own life, not the Best Friend next door.
1. Give the Kids more Responsibilities
Meals, laundry; After all, leading them to productive citizenship is the goal. They’ll begin to appreciate how much work it takes to complete a task. You’ll begin to hear: Thanks, mom: dinner was delicious.
2. Place Yourself on the “To Do” list
Take tennis lessons, check . . . set aside time to exercise, meditate. Read a book, listen to a podcast, put me somewhere near the top.
If they see a haggard mom who’s chasing her tail, we’re teaching them that adulthood is atrocious, a series of unfortunate events. Not a future I’m willing to pass along.
3. Take Responsibility for Yourself and Write your Own Story
Shake things up. Try new recipes, change your Look, try a new Style, volunteer. Life is full of Color, Adventure, and Opportunity. Clean out your Purse of Life and remember to Keep the Change.
Here’s to Living the Best Version of You! Share with us, what’s keeping you from change.